The question of a good or bad boss started with a phone call from a business colleague, who also happens to be a reader of this newsletter.
I had just hosted a podcast titled “Powerful Lessons from Bad Bosses” in which I interviewed John Rouda. In the episode, we traded some war stories about some of the horrible bosses we have had in our careers. The business colleague raised an interesting question and a challenge.
The Boss Question?
Why is it that some aspiring leaders are more focused on not exhibiting the negative traits of bad bosses instead of focusing on the positive traits of the good ones?
The Boss Challenge?
Write a post encouraging leaders to model good leaders and mentors.
My Initial Reaction
Maybe it is human nature…the negative is more memorable than the positive.
Just watch the evening news…storms, fires, accidents, political discord…it grabs our attention. The feel-good story is cute but draws little reaction. It certainly doesn’t draw in an audience.
Perhaps a bad boss impacts us in the same way.
Perhaps, it is because the pain and discomfort caused by a bad boss hit our psyches deeper than the affirmations we receive from a good boss.
I thought back on my own career. I have had some truly bad bosses. They certainly are memorable.
I once had a boss tell me to fire one of my team members because they walked too slowly across the parking lot. “If they walk that slow, they must code that slow”.
Have those bosses impacted my leadership style?
Without a doubt!
Did I consciously try to avoid the methods that I viewed as “bad”?
I most certainly did.
The Bad Boss Characteristics
I have had a lot of bosses during my career, some good, some bad, some a little bit of both. I’ve tried to learn from all of them…
I try to provide an environment of autonomy. I love the way one of my bosses described his style, “autonomy with accountability”.
Great way to counterbalance the Micromanager.
RIP (Retired in Place)?
Now that I have reached the twilight of my own career, I certainly do not want to be remembered as RIP.
I would rather be remembered like a boss that continually tried to battle the status quo, to inspire a team to greatness, a boss who would always go to bat for the team.
Never. Not my personality.
If management and leadership involved belittling those around me, I wanted no part of it. I try to be patient, I try to be kind, I try to be encouraging.
I’d rather coach and teach than yell and scream!
The Good Boss Characteristics
In the early 2000s, I was introduced to the Servant Leader, through the book by the same name. That was the type of leader I wanted to be.
I have had several bosses during my career that I would describe as servant leaders. Their focus was on us, their team. They:
- cared about our careers.
- cared about us.
- removed roadblocks.
- held us accountable.
A resounding yes!
I have had some wonderful mentors throughout my career. Some were my boss, most were not. Some probably didn’t even know I thought of them as mentors.
I continue to work with mentors, even while mentoring others. To me, it is one of the best ways to learn. I think I learn more from those I mentor than they ever learn from me.
Transformational? Sign me up!
Those leaders who have a vision, can articulate that vision, can lead us toward that vision are the leaders I will follow anywhere!
That is the type of leader I strive to be each and every day. I don’t always succeed. It takes time, energy, and a perspective of the future.
The Question and the Challenge
I believe it takes both.
I wish all managers were great leaders.
That fact is, not all of them are. We can:
- learn from both.
- learn what to do…and what NOT to do.
- observe, we tune, we seek feedback.
I would love to hear from you.
What type of boss has impacted you the most?
What have you learned from your bosses…good, bad?
How do you encourage those around you to learn and grow as leaders?
Post a comment, send an email, give me a call! I want to hear your stories!